Conflicts between individuals often go under the radar. I'm not talking about the conflicts that lead to a fight. I'm talking about the things you get over because you think that's what you should do. Nevertheless, they're problems. You may put them in a closet for many reasons, most often it's because you don't want to hurt the other person or a third person you care for. It's like politic. I think it's inevitable. That's part of the "everyone is an hypocrite at some degree".
We're all acting at some point. Now that the Christmas/new year holidays are over, I want you to think about all the simple things you did to show "genuine" feelings to almost everyone you met. From old high school friends to all the uncles, cousins and such. I'm not saying that you have conflicts with them. You probably don't. I'm simply pointing to you that we fake most of our feelings for many reasons.
When the kind of conflicts I'm talking about occur, We use this same fake image we all used during the new year holidays. It's a social mechanism. First of all, you need to learn to manage theses opposites feelings. Why? because if you don't then you're stacking them. And if you do, then someday you'll eventually explode and it could turn out to be ugly. I know, it happened to me.
The truth is, you'll never get along with everyone at 100%. They'll do things you disagree with and they'll root for others you may dislike. If your the kind of person who stand up for your opinions and beliefs, then be prepare for fights. Unless, like I said, you learn to manage these feelings. It's important to stay true to yourself. So it's more important to not put others to the same level of expectations you put yourself to. That way, you're not putting yourself between conflicts and persons. Instead you let others have their own level of expectations about themselves. Then, if you need to fake a feeling, it won't become a burden. It will be managed.
