I must admit it. Lately I've been weak. It's not something I'm ashamed of. Believe me. I'm not going to give you the men should not show weaknesses. I prefer to think weaknesses are useful. You can take the best of out them if you don't fall into showing weakness to lure someone into compassionate involvment to strengthen them or if you fall into despair and complaint.
My point is, every men have to right to be weak once in a while. It's not really important to show or hide them to others. However, it's part of the truth you owe to yourself. When you feel vulnerable and you're weak. You got to be honest with yourself and to not be ashamed to feel this way. That's not a threat to your manhood. The threat is how you react to weaknesses. To man up doesn't mean to hide them. It's to find a way to turn weaknesses into strenghts. And by that, I mean without having someone else taking care of the problem. You need to feel that you are the solution to you. It doesn't mean to never ask for help or never accept help. It means you must be part of the action. For instance. If you lack confidence in bed. You can't rely only on your partner to tell you how "great" you are or to fake your so-called greatness. What if your partner stops making this? What if you change your sex partner?
You see what I'm telling you ? If the solution comes from others, then it's a contextual solution. It's not solving your weakness. So I was saying that I was weak. For a few days, I must admit I was drifting away with fatalist ideas. And that is exactly why I'm writting this. I realized that weaknesses, like many other things I pointed to you in previous blog entries, are calls to step up, to man up, to change into a better version of yourself.
I'm really into this self-improvement thing. It's the fuel I use to find a meaning out of the things I do. And I also think it's where the philosophical part of all my posts on self improvement is. It's about living a meaningful life. I know most of the people I know don't always need to know exactly why they do what they do. They go with the flow of their lives and wish it will lead them to some place, somewhere, where, you know, there's happiness. What they don't realize is happiness is like flowers along the road of your life. You'll eventually find many as you live your life, but as you advance on that road, it won't necessary means there will be more flowers the further you go. That's why the meaning of it is so important. The meaning in this image helps you apreciate the flowers without always wishing to see more later.
I told you on a previous blog entries that we see the goals we set for ourselves as destinations. We tend to believe that after you achieved these you'll be more happy ( I'm referring to the wish for more flowers further on the road). I said it was some kind of illusion. Because you miss the point. The point is to know exactly why you want that destination reached. For instance. I went to school to get a job, to earn a living, to earn money. I got it, admirably I must add.
Am I really more happy then I was while I was studying? No I'm not. I can't tell you the difference. Because I thought it was what was normal to do. Of course I'm not suggesting I should quit my job because I didn't understood the meaning of all this while I was doing it. But this particular mistake is the reason why I don't feel much better now that my career is right on track where I pictured it would.
And that's really the point about self improvement. All the perks you get out of the things you do don't have a true meaning if it's not improving yourself and if you don't understand how it does then that's not as rewarding as it should. It will feel like buying a giant TV screen. Fun at first, and void after a while.
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